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Sex Underwater – The Facts About Underwater Sex

Under water sex sounds hot right? Two almost naked bodies glistening in the summer sun… A flirtatious splish, a friendly splash, your body weightlessly wrapped around his for an intimate kiss and some cheeky under water touching.

It is hot, and it’s definitely easy to get carried away with the motions of the ocean when the touching develops into bona fide bumping and grinding. But before you go grabbing your bikini and your man you may want to consider the following facts regarding your health and under water sex.

SEX IN THE WATER FACTS

1. Water does nothing but wash your natural lubrication away. Making under water sex awkward and uncomfortable.

2. Chlorinated or salt water are not ideal to get inside a woman. It will cause discomfort and irritation in such a sensitive area.

3. Sex underwater is difficult to practice safe sex. Even if you do manage to come prepared with protection, chlorinated or salt water do not mix with condoms.

Basically, if you want to stay healthy, comfortable and also actually enjoy the whole experience, sex in a pool, in the ocean, anal sex under water or basically any form of penetrative sex in the water is better left for dry ground.

SO WHAT IS UNDER WATER SEX GOOD FOR?

Foreplay! And lots of it! So we’re back at the beach, you’re feeling great in your bikini and he’s looking oh so hot in his swimmers. Let your mind get carried away with a little fantasy and enjoy your time together by letting the anticipation build. By not being able to have actual sex underwater (besides the innocent foreplay) you are both going to be crazy randy for it by the time you get back to dry land. Importantly your mind is going to be ready for sex and in turn your body is also going to be well on its way.

SEX IN A POOL

But for those who still want to experiment, you can try oral sex in the water. This is easiest in a spa or on the steps of a pool with you sitting on the edge to avoid chlorine getting in to your vagina. If you’re keen you can even try giving him a blow job under water, still by the safety and relative comfort by the side of the pool.

If you are super eager and are already very comfortable with regular anal sex, you can try for anal sex under water. Although it is possible to experiment with in a pool or spa, you will definitely still need ample amounts of a silicone-based lubricant. And although this lube is condom safe, and water resistant just be mindful that it is likely to cause a bit of a mess, and chlorine and anal sex under water will usually only result in one thing: Ring Sting!

All in all remember that sex in the water equals excellent foreplay. So enjoy your day at the beach or the pool, come out of the water and share a kiss, wrapped together in one big fluffy towel… then race home to your bedroom.

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Why Women Love Kinky, Naughty, Dirty, Nasty Sex And 5 Ways To Do It

The fact is that women love kinky sex.

Sure, they might not admit it in public, but this is only because they don’t want to be labelled as being ‘sluts’.

Remember this: What women say they want is often the opposite of what they actually want when it comes to sex.

Indeed, if women just told their men want they want in the bedroom, things would be a whole lot easier for us guys. But the reality is that women don’t often tell us what they want because they just want us to know.

You see, when a guy does all the right things in the bedroom (without his woman having to tell him what to do) — he seems like the PERFECT GUY. She thinks she’s hit the SEXUAL LOTTERY JACKPOT because she’s got this guy who can basically ‘read her mind’ in bed.

Well, guess what?

It’s actually not that difficult to give your woman the type of INCREDIBLE SEX that’ll keep her wanting to have sex with you for weeks, months and years to come.

All you have to do is learn what women want, then realize that most women want the same things in bed. Sure, every woman’s different — so you have to tweak things to suit different women. But basically, there are a few key things that all women want.

One of those things is KINKY SEX.

Now when I say kinky sex, I don’t mean black leather masks and whips (although you could do that if that’s your thing).

By kinky sex, I mean sex that isn’t BORING.

Listen up.

Missionary position with the lights on is okay, but not all the time.

You have to mix it up. You have to make it kinky, naughty, dirty and NASTY. That’s the type of sex that your woman really wants.

Here’s how to do it…

5 Ways To Give Your Woman Kinky, Naughty, Dirty, Nasty Sex

1. Mirrors And Video Cameras

There’s something a little bit ‘wrong’ about watching yourselves have sex.

So get the mirrors out and/or video camera and your woman will love it.

2. Anal Sex

Anal sex is considered a TABOO.

And anything taboo is secretly very exciting for a woman, including the idea of anal sex.

Just remember to start out very gently and take your time.

3. The Fear Of Getting Caught

You can bring this ‘fear’ into your sex-life by doing it with your woman somewhere where you might get seen. She’ll enjoy this one more than you can imagine.

4. Dirty Talk

Ah, my favorite sex technique of all.

Talking dirty to your woman will drive her crazy. So do it.

5. Introduce More People

Group sex is definitely kinky, naughty, dirty and nasty. And the truth is that many women would like to try group sex.

What I’ve shared with you here are 5 ways to spice up your sex-life and give your woman BETTER SEX. Remember though, whatever you do — to give her truly rewarding sex (the kind that make her totally loyal to you), you must give her vaginal orgasms.

There is no other way.

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What Types Of Sex Dreams Do You Have?

Sex is a natural, healthy and pleasurable part of life, so it’s not surprising that we dream about it. What is surprising, especially in this sexually liberal society, is that only about eight percent of our dreams are sexual.

In an often cited Montreal sex dreams research project conducted in the early part of the last decade, it was found that forty-five percent of men and forty-one percent of women participating in the study reported having sex dreams. Keep in mind that these numbers only relate to the research subjects. In other studies it was estimated that one hundred percent of men reported having sex dreams and eighty-four percent of women admitted having them.

I’d venture to say that we all have had, or will have a sexual dream at one time or another.

Of the eight percent of our dreams that are sexual, there are common themes that pop up regularly in both men’s and women’s nocturnal adventures.

Mae West, the American 20th century actress, once claimed that her first erotic dream was of a bear with a reddish-brown member about fourteen inches long. “I was,” she later quipped, “modest in my demands.”

Here are the most common types of sex dreams. Read them through and see which ones you’ve had.

Adultery Dreams

I wouldn’t rule out that this type of dream could be precognitive, but it’s usually not. Dreams of you or your partner being unfaithful is more likely to be about a situation or feeling where you’re not being true to yourself or your ideals/beliefs, etc.

Breasts

I’m not Freud, so I won’t suggest that dreaming of breasts, whether you’re a man or a woman, is referring to an unhealthy attachment to your mother. Breasts can mean a number of things, and in order to understand their significance in the dream, you would have to look at the context and additional content of the dream.

Genitalia

Dreaming of male or female genitals (doesn’t matter which gender) isn’t reflecting an obsession or unhealthy attitude, but probably is a metaphor or an analogy related to reproducing something, privacy or modesty.

Highly Erotic Dreams

These kinds of dreams are common and don’t necessarily mean that you’re over-sexed or that your tastes lean more toward the kinky stuff.

Homosexuality In Dreams

Contrary to many people’s and even dream worker’s beliefs (and often fears), dreaming of sex with a same-sex partner doesn’t mean you’re homosexual (unless you are gay, then you’d just analyze this type of dream the way you would any other sexual dream). The implication is probably that you want to develop a relationship with the individual in the dream, or that you want to resolve some conflict (make-up). Of course, these are just two of several possibilities. As with any image/symbol, you have to analyze it in context.

Impotence Dreams

Both men and women have these dreams, and though it’s possible that it’s a prodromal (health warning) dream, it’s more likely a dream that relates to feelings of impotence or your inability to perform in some other area of your life.

Incestuous Dreams

Now this type of dream is probably the one that disturbs dreamers the most. And with the exception of some kind of repressed trauma (which is very, very rare), has absolutely nothing to do with hidden or unnatural sexual feelings for a family member.

Kissing Dreams

Not all kissing dreams are sexual. If you’re kissing your child, your sister, a good friend, and there’s no passion or sexual energy, then you know it’s not a sex dreams.

Masturbation

I pretty much can guarantee that this type of dream isn’t going to be discussed among friends. Both men and women are still very quiet on the subject of self-gratification, which is essentially what the dream message is. Do something for or to please yourself.

Pregnancy Dreams

Though these aren’t necessarily sexual dreams, we can’t get pregnant (naturally at least) without sex, so it fits in with sex dreams. And yes, men have pregnancy dreams too. The question to ask yourself when you have this type of dream is: What am I creating (birthing), or bringing into the world?

Sex In Public

This type of dream is closely related to anxiety dreams where you’re naked in public or unprepared for a test of some kind. On the other hand, it may be an expression of your comfort with yourself, or being in the public eye.

Sex With A Celebrity

Ahhh, we can wish! Many dream workers will tell you that this type of dream is simple wish fulfillment. First of all, there’s nothing simple about dreams, and second, the celebrity may be a stand in for someone else, for a cause or talent, or showing you some role or part in your life that needs your attention.

Sex With A Stranger

Both married and single men dream of having sex with strangers more often than women do (though women dream of sex with a stranger as well). It doesn’t mean that you’re bored with your partner necessarily. Perhaps you’re looking to try something new in the bedroom, or in your life. Maybe you need to acknowledge the masculine aspects of yourself.

Sex With An Ex

This dream doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re still harbouring feeling for your ex, or that you want to reunite. Thought it could. Perhaps something in your current situation is reminding you of that relationship, or that individual. Is your hubby acting like the jerk you dumped before prom?

Sexual Assault Dreams

These are some of the most terrifying types of dreams for both men and women, though women tend to experience them much more often than men do.

Sleazy Dreams

Dreams of sexual encounters in less than proper places, or in less than proper ways, in no way implies that you’re looking to take a walk on the wild side. But it may be hinting at your attitude toward sex, or your current sexual relationship.

Wet Dreams

These types of dreams are enjoyable for both men and women, unless they’re part of a more disturbing type of sex dream. Teenagers have the most et dreams, but these types of dreams continue well into old age.

Sex dreams can be very pleasurable, but on the flip-side, they can be very unpleasant and downright terrifying. Because the subject is so sensitive, dreamers seem to be especially emotional, confused and/or concerned about them. As with any dream, the context and content of the sexual imagery is essential in uncovering the message your sex dream is trying to get to you. Take the time to look at all angles, rather than jump to the conclusion that it’s just about sex, or that the situation being depicted is actually what it is. Don’t let the sensitive nature of the subject matter colour your interpretation and understanding of the dream.

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3 Sex Skills You MUST Master (If You Want Awesome Orgasms)

There’s “sex”, and then there’s “SEX!” We’ve all had plain old missionary style sex that gets to be bore over the years. If you are just having standard, boring sex then you are really missing out on the real orgasmic pleasures of true mind blowing sex.

If you want to experience awesome orgasms, you just need to follow these 3 sex skills:

1. Long Lasting Sex. This must be mentioned first because it’s a HUGE reason why women, and men, experience either no orgasms at all, or else very lousy and weak orgasms.

Obviously this most often falls on the man. The man needs to learn to last long during sex and not experience the ever so common problem of premature ejaculation. This is a sex skill you simply have to learn if you want to give your partner incredible orgasms. And if you are suffering from premature ejaculation then your own orgasm is WEAK. Quick ejaculation orgasms are simply not as strong as those which take longer to achieve.

In order to last long during sex you have to learn some physical exercises and some mental breathing techniques to calm the mind and not get it overexcited (which is notorious for leading to quick ejaculations). Practice squeezing the small muscle between the anus and testicles which you can feel when you urinate and top mid stream. Flexing it will make it stronger and allow you to last. It takes some weeks to get used to but it is definitely worth it for both you and your partner.

Now if you are a woman, your job is to encourage your guy to learn to last. Give him the exercises and help him practice them so you can have the long lasting sex that you and he deserves.

2. Oral Sex Mastery. This is the second best sex skill you need to master because oral sex is unbelievably so darn pleasurable! Let’s be honest, oral sex feels amazing. It is oftentimes much more incredible than regular sex. For this reason alone you need to master this skill big time.

If you are woman you can easily learn some incredible techniques for giving ridiculous mind blowing orgasms to guys. The type where they look down in utter disbelief at the pleasure you are giving them.

If you are a guy it gets a little trickier. Honestly, most guys are clueless about “going down there”. There’s definitely certain techniques and rhythms to learn and major tips that work wonders for unbelievable orgasms. These are the type of orgasms that the woman remembers for years to come. You may split up with a woman, and then see them a few years later, and that initial look they will give you will automatically convey memories and images of those amazing nights of oral pleasure that you gave her. That’s how powerful good oral sex can be.

Some oral tips to get started with are to take things slow at first. Don’t rush down there and slobber away. Go slow and gradually pick up your pace developing a steady rhythm. Listen to her! If she is responding well then keep at what you are doing. If there’s obvious room for improvement then allow her to guide you a bit to where it feels best. Eventually you will want to learn the oral sex skills where you won’t need to be guided but you will provide ways to pleasure her that she never even knew about.

3. Hot Sex Positions. We talked about the missionary being lame. That’s because there are so many other positions to choose from and experiment with that are much “hotter” and more erotic than the typical missionary.

The key to awesome sex is variety. And variety will come in the form of switching up your sex positions. As an example, a small sampling of your standard rotation of sex positions can be the following: Have her on top, go from behind, insert from the side, straddle each other in the sitting position. There are many variations to sex and they are all incredibly pleasurable. The key is to mix it up. Learn as many as possible and rotate them.

Don’t just learn standard sex positions either, learn oral sex positions such as the 69 where you are both performing oral on one another at the same time.

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Naughty Sex – How To Make Your Woman Give You Everything You Want In Bed (Blow Jobs Included)

I want you to take a few seconds toimagine the following scenario:

You come in from a hard day’s work and as soon as you get through your front door, your woman gives you a HUGE SMILE and looks really pleased to see you. You smile back, take her hand, pull her in close and give her a big kiss and a cuddle.

She makes dinner (whatever your favourite food is) and you share some conversation and a little wine (or a couple of beers) with your food. Then you relax for half an hour on the sofa – either listening to some music or watching television. Next, things get interesting…

You look at her and she looks at you and she takes your hand and demands that you take her to the bedroom. So… being the cool guy that you are (who is always willing and able to SATISFY HIS WOMAN) you take her to the bedroom and have sex with her. But you don’t just have any old sex – no, no, no… you have really dirty, really naughty sex. You have the kind of sex that every man wants (but not many men ever get).

You get all the BLOW JOBS you could want and your woman even WANTS you to give her ANAL SEX. And remember – this happens every night (not just once a week or once a month like it is for many couples). Sounds pretty good, right?

Now, what if I told you that there is a way to make the scenario I described for you above a REALITY? Would you like to know how to do that? I thought you would. So pay close attention, because what I’m about to share with you has the power to take your SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS to the next level.

Naughty Sex – How To Make Your Woman Give You Everything You Want In Bed (Blow Jobs Included)

In order to get EVERYTHING you could ever dream of in the bedroom, the secret is actually very simple. Here it is…

– GIVE YOUR WOMAN AMAZING SEX

Seriously, when you give your woman amazing sex – she will willingly do pretty much ANYTHING you want in the bedroom. Give her great sex and all the blow jobs you could ever dream of will be yours. You’ll also be much more likely to get her to want ANAL SEX and even group sex (if that’s your thing).

Now, let me tell you how to give your woman amazing sex… First, you must know that amazing sex is not giving your woman one clitoral orgasm using your tongue or fingers. You can give her an ORGASM that way – but that is not amazing sex (it’s just OK sex).

Amazing sex is the kind of sex that causes your woman to brag to her friends about how good you are. Amazing sex is the kind of sex that makes your woman think of you as “the best she’s ever had”. And to give your woman amazing sex, you must give her many types of orgasm. Give her clitoral orgasms, VAGINAL orgasms and MULTIPLE orgasms.

Give her orgasms so hard and so powerful they bring a tear to her eye. Give her orgasms that make her scream your name so loudly it wakes the neighbours. Basically, give her sexual pleasure like very few men know how to give a woman. Do that and she will be eternally grateful, meaning that all the BLOW JOBS and other naughty things that you want from your woman in the bedroom, will become yours. Guaranteed.

In order to give your woman great sex and lots of ORGASMS, you must do several things that the “average man” does not do. For starters, you must respect your woman outside of the bedroom. Only when you respect your woman will she fully open up to you and surrender to you in the bedroom.

Next, you must always tell the truth and be a man of your word. This builds TRUST. Once you have a basic level of trust, you can then go on to build SEXUAL TRUST with your woman. Without sexual trust your woman will never get really naughty with you in the bedroom.

So if you want all the blow jobs and anal sex you could ever imagine – never lie or be dishonest with your woman.

INSIDE THE BEDROOM you must take control and lead your woman. Women are sexually submissive and they like strong, sexually confident, manly men. When you become that kind of guy and take control of your woman, she will love you for it.

Please remember that you must only TAKE CONTROL inside the bedroom. Your woman does not want you to control her outside of the bedroom. In fact, men who try to control their women outside of the bedroom are the exact opposite of what women want. They are weak, needy and insecure.

To give your woman great sex you must also TALK DIRTY. Women love dirty talk because it stimulates their mind (and for women, sex is very mental). Many men are afraid to talk dirty, but you must “step up” and use your voice in the bedroom if you want to become “the best your woman has ever had”.

There is no other option. Other things you must do to give your woman great sex are to use techniques like The Welcomed Method and The Deep Spot Method to give her orgasms like no man will have done before.

And also remember to do things differently each time you have sex with your woman. Make love to her in many ways and in many locations – otherwise things will get boring. And if you allow the sex to get boring – your woman will stop wanting it. I’ll finish by giving you two powerful examples from my own personal life.

With my first girlfriend (before I really worked out what great sex was) I had the kind of frustrating sex life that many men have and perhaps that you have right now. I wanted more sex than my girlfriend and I didn’t know why. What’s important to note is that at that moment in time I thought that giving her one clitoral orgasm each time we had sex was enough. How wrong was I!

Anyway, I split up with her and met a new girl. This time things were very different. I educated myself and I gave this girl incredible pleasure. I gave her clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms and multiple orgasms EVERY TIME we had sex. I also sometimes gave her squirting orgasms and even orgasms with no touching.

Now, let me ask you a few questions…

– How many blow jobs do you think I had with this girl?

That’s right… as many as I wanted.

– Do you think I had anal sex with this girl?

You bet I did.

– And do you think this girl wanted as much sex as I did?

Truth be told – sometimes she wanted MORE THAN I DID.

Now I think you’ll agree that is a massive contrast between those two relationships. And all I did to make the change was some learning. I taught myself how to give women incredible sex. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.

After-all, a man’s greatest pleasure is pleasing his woman. Are you pleasing your woman?

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Women LOVE Sex!

We don’t have to talk a woman into having sex.

Women love sex! They actually WANT sex.

Only problem is they deal with cultural stuff surrounding sex. More than us. You know, being seen as a “slut.” For us, someone calls us that, it’s almost a compliment.

Why the double-standard?

Women are seen as the “guardians” of sex. I mean, if a woman doesn’t open the “door” to us and we force our way in… well, there are laws against that. Even though she’s got the SAME EXACT desires we have, if she opens the “door” too easily, she gets chastised, ostracized.

At least that’s the story. But to what extent is that story meant to “control” women?

A woman’s sexuality is like an ocean. It’s large, powerful, flowing, changing, receptive. Men take a dip inside and come out limp. Not to mention her sexuality can bring the strongest of us to our knees. Hello Samson. And then of course there are the husbands who’ve historically worried whether his children really are his.

So, to what extent is that word “slut” meant to control women’s sexuality? ‘Cause I don’t see why women can’t enjoy the same freedom to enjoy sex as we do.

Agree with me, disagree with me. I don’t care. My point is this.

One big reason women SEEM like they’re not into sex as much as us is because they have the social consequences to deal with. As well as pregnancy consequences. And even emotional consequences (sex is often an emotional experience for women). So, they hide their desires.

Doesn’t mean they don’t want it. ‘Cause they do. Oh, man do they. They just have more stuff to deal with around it than we do. They don’t want to be judged, so they hide it.

“No, no, no, no,” I hear someone saying. “I’ve been with my wife for twelve years and she won’t give me any. How do you explain that?”

Hey, if she has sex out of obligation… Or if sex isn’t fun or pleasurable… of course she won’t want it.

But if she ENJOYS the sex… why would anyone NOT want something that’s pleasurable?

Still don’t believe me?

Look at a book like Nancy Friday’s “Secret Garden.”

Nancy Friday is a journalist who had collected women’s most secret sexual thoughts and fantasies. That book’s a collection of women’s fantasies from the mouths of real women.

Read that and you soon see how CRAZY sexual women are.

Not only that, you see a theme. A lot of women’s fantasies have to do with being dominated, “ravaged,” and “taken.” You realize, women don’t just love sex, they love to get taken!

What does that mean?

#1. Don’t Be Judgmental.

Never EVER pass judgment on her sexuality. It’s GREAT that she’s sexual! Love it. Let her be free. Make her feel comfortable letting go and being so sexual with you.

The more comfortable she is letting go (because she knows you won’t judge her), the more comfortable she’ll be to unleash the sexual BEAST inside of her.

And really… Is there anything more beautiful than a woman in ecstasy?

I know. Of course there isn’t.

#2. Attitude – She Wants You

You already have what she wants. You have a cock. She wants that, man.

So, you never have to talk a woman into sex. You never have to kiss her ass. You never have to spend loads of money in order to “get” sex from her.

After you make her feel comfortable with sex, all you’ve gotta do is turn her on. Believe me, she’ll want it then.

Well how do you do that?

#3. Give Her Sex She ENJOYS

Turn on her mind. Her mind is her largest sex organ. Turn on her mind, and her body will follow.

That means physical sex techniques won’t turn her on alone. You’ve gotta also use psychological sex techniques. Those are even more important.

What are psychological sex techniques?

Turning on her mind. Meaning…

First, you’ve gotta shut off the “slut” threat inside her, and make her feel comfortable giving herself to you.

One prime way to make her feel comfortable: massages. Give her a massage.

Even better? A leg and foot massage.

Most guys, including myself, forget to massage a woman’s lower body. But relaxing her lower body goes a loooong way to relaxing her whole body.

Second, you’ve gotta make her feel beautiful and sexy and desirable. That means getting completely and totally turned on by her. In addition, she’s gotta feel liked not just for her looks, but for her as a HUMAN BEING.

Complicated? Check.

Third, you’ve gotta spend plenty of time with foreplay. Her second biggest sex organ is her skin all over. Her va-jay-jay comes in third place.

So, spend time exploring her skin all over before touching her sexual bits and pieces. This teases her, and turns her mind on even more.

Man, let me tell you. She’ll be wet and BEGGING you for sex. Ha!

#4. TAKE her.

But you don’t always have to make “sweet love” to her.

Of course women enjoy that. But once you’ve got the water boiling, women ALSO love getting raunchy, animalistic, naughty. They love dirty talk, being taboo, being dominated.

Women are horny, man, HORNY.

Well, how do you “take” her?

  • Talk dirty
  • Make noise (be expressive, not just silent)
  • Pull her hair
  • Pin her hands behind her head
  • Slap her butt
  • Feel her breasts
  • Pick her up
  • Bend her over
  • Throw her on the bed
  • Give it to her hard.

GET IN TOUCH WITH THE ANIMAL WITHIN. Dominate her. ENJOY her.

Now, ladies come first. It’s the gentlemanly thing to do.

But I even hesitate writing that. I mean, definitely let a girl come before you. And if you come before she does, make sure to take care of your girl. But great sex isn’t just about the orgasm. A TOY can make her come for God’s sakes.

Great sex is more about paying attention to her, connecting with her. It’s like the old saying: the journey’s more important than the destination.

Let me tell you a quick story about this.

I had sex with this BEAUTIFUL girl who eventually became my girlfriend. One night we were reminiscing about the first time we had sex. I’ll never forget what she said: “I don’t even remember whether I had an orgasm or not, but I just remember the sex being REALLY good.”

Why? I had paid attention to her.

Now, there were other times I had sex with her and tried too hard to give her orgasm. And you know what? She DID have an orgasm. But the sex wasn’t as good. Go figure.

So, orgasms are cool but even more important to having great sex: paying attention to the way her body responds moment-to-moment, rapport, making her feel beautiful and liked as a human being. AND also TAKING her, DESIRING her, ENJOYING her.

Then after it’s all done, making her feel beautiful.

Again?

Yes, again. “I can’t hold you close enough”… a satisfying ending will ensure she’ll be coming back to you for more.

My point it simple. She WANTS sex and she WANTS to be taken. So TAKE her!

Unleash her ocean of sexuality. And make her feel good about it along the way.

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Effects Of Premarital Sex

Premarital sex is universally known as two people having sex before marriage. In the past, premarital sex is considered as forbidden and doing so will lead to a heavy retribution. Now as society evolves, values and mind-sets develop and our degenerating society is slowly embracing premarital sex as a common thing in relationships. This had led to ambivalent responses from the society as well as religions. The significant question is has our society embraced premarital sex? Does the youth of our society know the effects of premarital sex?

Waiting until you’re married to engage in sexual activity isn’t just some antiquated ideal. It can be advantageous to both partners and the relationship itself. Likewise, engaging in sexual activity before being married can also affect a relationship in myriad ways. Premarital sex can affect how a couple relates to each other, change the dynamics of the relationship and even have physical effects, a child could be brought into the equation and of course most importantly, the salvation of the souls involved.

‘Food is for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will put an end to them together. But the body is not for the desires of the flesh, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body: And God who made the Lord Jesus come back from the dead will do the same for us by his power. Do you not see that your bodies are part of the body of Christ? How then may I take what is a part of the body of Christ and make it a part of the body of a loose woman? Such a thing may not be. Or do you not see that he who is joined to a loose woman is one body with her? For God has said, the two of them will become one flesh. But he who is united to the Lord is one spirit. Keep away from the desires of the flesh. Every sin which a man does is outside of the body; but he who goes after the desires of the flesh does evil to his body. Or are you not conscious that your body is a house for the Holy Spirit which is in you, and which has been given to you by God? And you are not the owners of yourselves; for a payment has been made for you: let God be honoured in your body.’

1 Corinthians 6:13-20

‘But fornication and every kind of impurity, or covetousness, let them not even be mentioned among you, for they ought not to be named among God’s people.’

Ephesians 5:3

EFFECTS

1. If you plant premarital sex, you reap extra marital sex as the harvest. Surveys have revealed that people who have indulged in premarital sex are more promiscuous or more susceptible to extra marital sex and affairs while married. Gen.8:22.

2. It opens the door for demonic spirits to wreak havoc in the relationship. Remember, sex is as spiritual as it is physical. 1 Corinthians 6:16.

3. It will turn off God’s supply of favour from reaching you. As Christians we know that God frown at it. The Bible in 1 Corinthians 6:18 says; ‘Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that commits fornication sins against his own body. What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God and ye are not your own?’

4. Your conscience will be wounded and you will be tormented by the thought of such acts of disobedience. Sexually transmitted diseases are often passed when couples have had multiple sexual partners. Although premarital sex doesn’t necessarily mean the couple have had multiple sexual partners, the chances are greater than if a couple vows to abstain until marriage

5. It blinds you from seeing the flaws and negative attitudes of your partner. You may be constrained to manage the relationship that may lead to a bad marriage because of the temporary pleasure of sex.

6. You lose the respect of your partner and your focus gets blurred. Sex creates a bond between sex partners that can easily be violated if the commitment isn’t strong enough to sustain it. Marriage creates a lifelong commitment and can support the bond a sexual relationship creates. It is very difficult for couples engaged in premarital sex to ensure that their sexual relationship create a lasting bond

7. It erodes the trust you have for each other. As a result suspicion comes up, and there is room for severe jealousy even when nothing is happening.

8. Premarital sex replaces intimacy. This might end up in heartbreak if you lost interest. A married couple could also be more likely to experience problems if one or both partners had been sexually active before marriage. Couples with multiple past sexual partners may find themselves comparing their marital sex life to their premarital sex life, often leading to dissatisfaction.

9. Couples who cohabit or engage in premarital sex before marriage are at greater risk of divorce and report a lower level of dedication to the relationship, which increases the risk of a single-parent household if a child is involved. You open yourself up to shame and regrets if it leads to pregnancy. If you try to cover up by committing abortion, you become guilty of murder that is if you survive it.

10. It will also lead to bad reputation. Usually if adolescents commit premarital sex, this secret would be confined between the couple themselves. Many times this act is hard to be kept as a secret as the man tend to brag amongst their friends thus leading to rumours. The girl’s reputation is at stake as she will be gossiped and judged by her own peers.

Based on the information imparted above it can be deduced that Premarital sex adds nothing to your courtship. It only introduces disaffection. If you have already engaged in premarital sex, you should make a commitment with God, your boyfriend or girlfriend, and yourself to remain sexually pure from this point on until marriage.

Ask God for help and strength to remain sexually pure until marriage. God will provide the strength and grace to overcome the temptation to have sex, as long as you are willing and careful not to put yourself in a place of temptation. Philippians 4:13

I Corinthians 10:13 declares, “No temptation has you in its power but such as is common to human nature; and God is faithful and will not allow you to be tempted beyond your strength. But, when the temptation comes, He will also provide the way of escape; so that you may be able to bear it.” It is possible to fight sexual temptation and win the battle.

Also, it is important to remember that God can and does forgive the sin of premarital sex. When a person places his or her faith in the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, desiring to turn away from the old life of sin, all sins are forgiven. Jesus died to pay the penalty for all of our sins, including premarital sex. Once they are forgiven, they are all forgiven.

Colossians 1:13-14 says, “Who halt delivered us from the power of darkness, and halt translated us into the kingdom of his dear son. In whom we have redemption through his blood, even the forgiveness of sin:” What we are to do is confess our sins. 1 John 1:9 says, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Pray this prayer

“Lord Jesus, I am a sinner, save me from sins, I promised not to commit the sin of premarital sex any more. Give me the grace Lord to live for you and you only I pray oh Lord in Jesus name. Amen.

Congratulations God sees your commitment and will give you the grace to live above every temptation. In Jesus mighty name.

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The Amazing Range Of Sex Toys

The variety of sex toys is surprising. Sex toys vary from purely male or purely female sex toys to toys that can be used by both sexes. There are also some sex toys that can also be classified as sex aids or marital aids.

The Purpose Of Sex Toys

Some sex toys aid the man’s erection, stimulate the female genitals to become more sensitive or provide a different feel to ‘normal’ sex. Other sex toys provide an ‘environment’ for variations in sex, for example so called orgy bed sheets. Sometimes they are used to help a person who has difficulty with unaided sex to achieve sexual satisfaction. However most sex toys provide a new way to directly stimulate the male or female genitals to achieve sexual satisfaction.

Using sex toys can provide new experiences and variation in the sexual experience. It can also provide a fantasy element for enhancing or revitalising a relationship.

The usual expectation is that a sex toy provides direct stimulation of the genitals in foreplay and/or during sexual intercourse or as a means to obtain orgasm through only the stimulation provided by the sex toy.

Types of Sex Toys

Vibrating Sex Toys

Probably the most well known sex toys are ‘vibrators’ which, as the name suggests, provide stimulation of the genitals using vibration. They are mainly used to stimulate the clitoris, but may also be used to stimulate any other part of the female body or that of a man’s.

The simplest of these are pencil or wand shaped (though normally thicker than a pencil). They often have an internal battery (or two) which powers a small electric motor. Sometimes the battery pack and controller are external and connected to the vibrator by a wire. This motor is fitted with a small, out of balance, weight attached to the shaft. As this weight rotates it throws the motor and vibrator into a small circular movement which causes the vibration you feel.

With a vibrator that has a controller, as the power is increased the speed of the motor increases and with it both the rate and strength of vibration. Both the strength and rate of vibration effects how stimulating you find the sex toy. The best effect may not be as strong and as fast as possible. The optimum settings may well change as your degree of excitement builds. To get the best results it is worth buying a vibrator which is controllable.

Different vibrators will have different characteristics and you may well find you prefer one combination much more than another and your preference may even vary depending on which part of your body you are stimulating.

More recently electronic vibrator controllers have appeared which provide not only the static control of power/speed but also allow you to select patterns of power pulses and surges. These can be very effective.

There are also other vibrating sex toys such as butterfly stimulators and vibrating penis rings.

Other Powered Sex Toys

There are some sex toys that use other ways to provide mechanical stimulation. These usually depend on a motor that makes the sex toy continually change its shape which provides a sort of rotational movement or makes it move back and forth. The back and forth movements are sometimes powered by an air pump rather than a motor. The movements have been used to create, for example, mechanical licking tongues, vibrators that ‘penetrate’ the vagina and mouth simulators to give a man a ‘blow job’.

On a bigger scale and much more expensive, there are ‘sex machines’ that incorporate thrusting and vibrating dildos.

Combination Sex Toys

So far we have covered vibrating, moving and thrusting sex toys. As you may have guessed these are all offered in a bewildering array of combinations.

A common combination in many ‘Rabbit Style’ vibrators is clitoral stimulation using vibrations and vaginal stimulation using movement and sometimes a thrusting motion as well.

Many sex toys add varying textures to their surfaces; a dildo or vibrator may have ridges or soft spikes or a rippled shape.

Sensation Change Sex Toys

Some sex toys rather than provide vibrating or moving stimulation, change the feel of sex.

For instance there are a variety of sleeves to put over the penis to provide different sensations for both partners while engaged in penetrative sex.

There are rings that squeeze the base of the penis and/or tighten the scrotum that assist the man’s erection and also changes his sensations. There are penis extenders and thickeners which may give a man’s partner greater sensations during penetration.

There are a wide variety of lubricants that can significantly change the feel of sex.

There are PVC and Polyurethane bed sheets that are water and oil proof that can be used for slippery or messy sex.

Why Use A Sex Toy?

A good question is: why do people use a sex toy? Surely fingers, tongues, penises, clitorises and vaginas etc all provide great sexual stimulation and enjoyment.

Well, apart from therapeutic uses (eg erection assistance), sex toys can drive the imagination (being taken by a machine), provide variety (new ways to do old things), vary the stimulating effects in otherwise normal sex (penis sleeves) and some can provide experiences not possible with ‘normal body parts’ (particularly vibrating sex toys and electro-stimulation).

Where To Start

If you have not tried a sex toy before and don’t yet have an idea of what you might like, try one of the simpler vibrators first. Most probably you will enjoy the experience and then start to wonder what other delights can be found with more sophisticated vibrators and other sex toys …

If you then find you do enjoy sex toys try out a few others and find what suits you. Above all, have fun trying them out!

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